Men suck at maintaining friendships
There’s no other way to put it. We have all heard about the male loneliness epidemic. The proof is everywhere. We are the proof. We are the reason, we are lonely. Not women, not social media, not dating apps or anything else we like to blame and cope.
My closest guy friends are my co-founders, istg. It’s sad af but we are all boring nerds who’d rather be coding than partying on weekends. Or it could be a sign we are getting older. Anyhow, I digress. Apart from them, my closest friends are women, always been.
I can name more than one occasion where a girl (space) friend of mine told me some guy asked her out because she was there for him after a breakup. The moment a woman shows the slightest bit of empathy, we bois pathetically fall in love. Why? Because we're fucking starved for affection, that's why.
When we're in school and college, we men look like we have tons of friends. But we were only held together because we were all in the same physical space every day. Even with social media today, we men suck at maintaining friendships. Why? Is it our ego? We would quite literally take our own lives rather than just talk about it. Don't believe me? A quick search gives me this statistic:
Men die by suicide at significantly higher rates than women, accounting for roughly 75–79% of all suicide deaths in countries like the US, Canada, and the UK. In the US, the male suicide rate is about 4 times higher than the female rate, with approximately 100 men dying by suicide every day, totaling over 36,000 annually.
Yeah, I don’t think the numbers look rosy for other countries either.
Look - I’m not coming at this with a holier-than-thou attitude. I suck at this. I’ve been an awful friend for the most part. I was going through some photos recently and talking to a friend about the good ol’ days. That’s when I realized it’s not too late. We can still reconnect. Across borders. Catch up on what’s going on in each other’s lives. All it takes is one text - “Hey, I came across xyz and thought of you..”
Please, let’s not become lonely alcoholics in our 40s and 50s.
Fin.
Send this to a bro. Love you bois. No homo. Ah fuck it, maybe a lil bit idc.